Are These 5 Factors Impacting Your Intimacy and Relationships?

Read on to discover 5 factors that silently erode a relationship....

How do you prioritize pleasure in your life, with your partner, spouse, or friends? We may at times neglect our own needs in the midst of time- crunching schedules, laundry lists, and various commitments. Is pleasure lacking in your life or your relationship? It might be due to one of these 5 factors:

1. Stress: Stress might be affecting your relationship more than you know. If you find yourself disagreeing with everything your partner says, if intimacy seems nonexistent or rushed, if you find your partner suddenly irritating to you, stress may be negatively impacting your relationship.

2. Lack of Adventure: Do you find yourself bored in your relationship? Adding novelty and a little spark is generally necessary to keep a relationship dynamic and thriving. When's the last time you and your partner or spouse tried something new? What’s something you’ve never done before, but you always wanted to try?

3. Selfishness: Consideration and thoughtfulness are essential to maintaining a reciprocal, cooperative relationship with your partner. Our selfishness can create emotional “blinders,” and we may forget to take into account our partner’s needs and desires. This can create disconnect and feelings of separation.

4. Poor Communication Skills: Whether it’s talking about your sexual desires, your day at work, or a problem that was unresolved or “swept under the rug,” healthy communication is a natural lubricant for deepening connection. If couples aren’t talking about their wants and needs, then there’s most likely going to be some form of barrier that will continue to build over time, possibly leading to resentment.

5. Lack of Initiative: Are you always the one to plan something? Are you expending more emotional labor than your partner? Is there a general apathy in the air when it comes to taking action in the relationship, whether it’s planning a date night, arranging dinner on a busy night, or helping out with the pets or kids? Maintaining a healthy balance and connection requires effort and action from all parties. What does this look like in your own life?

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More Ideas for Spicing Things UP!

Looking for some other ideas to spice up your intimacy? Here are some more below! Watch porn together

Mutual masturbation

Go to a sex shop and buy a new toy

Sensual massage

Sensation Play

Plan a BDSM Scene

Try a new position

Buy your partner a small gift

Plan a new trip/experience/go somewhere new

Enjoy a quickie

Buy some new sexy lingerie

Incorporate food in the bedroom

Play a sex game

Remember.... the goal is to have fun!!! Having an orgasm is great, but it doesn't have to happen! Find your play, curiosity, and imagination! Your sexuality is yours to define!